Relative Reflections - Revolution NO

I can never understand the concept behind it-wont-look-nice-if-you-dont-come/talk when it comes to relatives. Why are we forced, practically blackmailed, made to go through the gruesome routine of argue-shout-tire-give in everytime an occasion we are not comfortable attending comes up. Like I mentioned earlier, all I have these days is time, so I  put my black cells (well, grey actually, but then because this borders bitch-ness, I thought black would be apt). 

Well, for starters if I had a 'friend' who'd repeatedly humiliated me I'd dump her right way. Would even give a few shots back. Or some one who was a total dramebaaz, I like drama. But only when its in theatre or in the movies. My process of evolution ended with accepting drama in them. In real life? I'd outright ignore. But could I do the same with a relative? A big No. You are expected to 'let-go', something that my poor pea sized brain isn't programmed to do. Why it questions, Why should I go, smile a plastic smile at Madam Dramebaaz (otherwise they'd be another session called you-didnot-behave-well-wasnt-expected-out-of-you) and wish her? Wooh! How'd you even expect I'd wholeheartedly wish her when I despise her so much? I'll probably be making a mental note of making a vodoo doll when I go back home.

The 'closeness' of the relationship with the relative is directly proportional to the intensity of blackmail infested upon you. And if its on the husband's side of the family tree, forget it my darling, paint a smile and go go go. Your chances are exactly the same as George Clooney taking me for a date. You only wish!

"We need people Divya. So you have to come" Ok, right. I am not exactly asocial. But do I need someone who doesnot exactly make me happy? Its a complex emotion when I meet such relatives;  a perfect blend of helplessness, hopelessness, taken-for-granted-ness, defeat, anger, and loss of self respect. I am also mentally prepared to be humiliated again and carefully observing her moves (well, you know such characters are women generally) making notes to be used as defense the next time. 

Even the times you can defend yourself, win the argument and manage to stay back, you'll have to face the fireworks later. And trust me with this, Hell Hath no fury like a despite-all-the-convincing-you-didnt-come/talk situation disobeyed. 

Will there ever be an end to this? Isn't it time the Right to say NO was included in our fundamental rights? What we need a revolution people! 

Secretly hoping someone would read this. And I'll be giving a TED seminar on this sometime (now, tell me I am asking too much!)

P.S: When I actually meet Madam Dramebaaz next week, I pray I can get the plastic-smile-congratulations right!