Of everything in this universe, a mother is supposed to be, and is the most selfless being. What happens when a mother questions her son, "What have you done for me?"
Can she ask a question like that in the first place? No, I am not being emo nor am I hosting a SMJ here...its a perfectly straight question which set me thinking.
Let me deconstruct a situation.
A single mother chooses to stay and help the lazy, drama queen, scheming, street-smart daughter over the indifferent, struggling, taken-for-granted BUT clean-good-hearted son. Son says he needs her help. Mother cites duty to the daughter primary, and questions the son if he has ever helped her in fulfilling any of her responsibilities, or atleast offered help, or in the least case asked her how she was.
Despite holding immense respect and love for the mother, the son never did. He was dumbfounded at the question. Never did he expect such questions to be posed even in his most frightening exam.
The cunning daughter on the other hand, did little things, only in hope of a bigger favour.
And she succeeded in getting them. oh, she would cry, plead innocence and play her cards; She got her way everytime. She would claim undying love for her brother, but duped him each time. But will she and can she always?
Who is to be questioned?
The indifferent son who never questioned anything, who created an impression for himself that he never cared...though in reality he did; That son who stay hidden and clueless about the ways of the world because the mother was herself overprotective; That son whose mother made him believe he was perfect.
Or The mother? That mother who was intelligent, worldly-wise, self-reliant, strong, extremely religious, broad minded, ridden with ill-fate yet emerged victorious, who single handedly brought up two children without external assistance. Who would expect she'd ask such shattering questions!
Is the son to be blamed for never having SHOWN that he cared...or the mother who never showed the son that she cared for the fact that he didn't care.
Anyway, here are the lessons I learnt:
Even the gentlest and most selfless of beings need to be SHOWED they are cared for.
Expect the unexpected.
No parent can love their children equally (a study by TIME magazine proves it. google it up you'll know)
Even if you are good, the other person is a cunning fox, you'll lose things definitely. Stay smart
Only one thing irks a person more than being ignored. Being ignored by a rival. He/She'd do anything to get noticed.
And most importantly,
Nothing can hurt you more than your mother asking you what you have done for her. I hope and pray I'll never ask my son questions like these, after seeing the son's turmoil, hurt, pain and helplessness.
Its never late folks, go show her you care! A mother is very important. And you ARE answerable to her.
And yes, girls admire momma's boys (not the ji-mathaji for everything guy, the guy who knows to care for his mother)
In other news, Okay Drama-queen, war you want, war you get.
P.S: I am all sleep-slurry, but totally mean every word I post, and yes DQ you'll get a war. A battle if you are lucky! *evil grin*
Can she ask a question like that in the first place? No, I am not being emo nor am I hosting a SMJ here...its a perfectly straight question which set me thinking.
Let me deconstruct a situation.
A single mother chooses to stay and help the lazy, drama queen, scheming, street-smart daughter over the indifferent, struggling, taken-for-granted BUT clean-good-hearted son. Son says he needs her help. Mother cites duty to the daughter primary, and questions the son if he has ever helped her in fulfilling any of her responsibilities, or atleast offered help, or in the least case asked her how she was.
Despite holding immense respect and love for the mother, the son never did. He was dumbfounded at the question. Never did he expect such questions to be posed even in his most frightening exam.
The cunning daughter on the other hand, did little things, only in hope of a bigger favour.
And she succeeded in getting them. oh, she would cry, plead innocence and play her cards; She got her way everytime. She would claim undying love for her brother, but duped him each time. But will she and can she always?
Who is to be questioned?
The indifferent son who never questioned anything, who created an impression for himself that he never cared...though in reality he did; That son who stay hidden and clueless about the ways of the world because the mother was herself overprotective; That son whose mother made him believe he was perfect.
Or The mother? That mother who was intelligent, worldly-wise, self-reliant, strong, extremely religious, broad minded, ridden with ill-fate yet emerged victorious, who single handedly brought up two children without external assistance. Who would expect she'd ask such shattering questions!
Is the son to be blamed for never having SHOWN that he cared...or the mother who never showed the son that she cared for the fact that he didn't care.
Anyway, here are the lessons I learnt:
Even the gentlest and most selfless of beings need to be SHOWED they are cared for.
Expect the unexpected.
No parent can love their children equally (a study by TIME magazine proves it. google it up you'll know)
Even if you are good, the other person is a cunning fox, you'll lose things definitely. Stay smart
Only one thing irks a person more than being ignored. Being ignored by a rival. He/She'd do anything to get noticed.
And most importantly,
Nothing can hurt you more than your mother asking you what you have done for her. I hope and pray I'll never ask my son questions like these, after seeing the son's turmoil, hurt, pain and helplessness.
Its never late folks, go show her you care! A mother is very important. And you ARE answerable to her.
And yes, girls admire momma's boys (not the ji-mathaji for everything guy, the guy who knows to care for his mother)
In other news, Okay Drama-queen, war you want, war you get.
P.S: I am all sleep-slurry, but totally mean every word I post, and yes DQ you'll get a war. A battle if you are lucky! *evil grin*
P.S: I forgot to add. my train of thought got a little derailed probably. ANyway.
ReplyDeleteThe mother's primary duty is to UNDERSTAND. If only the mother had understood the son inside out. If only she recognised his inability to express feelings of love and care. If only she could tell the daughter she knew of all her guiled plans and schemes, and put her in place.
If only....
N S,
ReplyDeleteAs a parent I can say that it is duty of parents to understand inner qualities of child. We should also help child to understand that keeping everything close to chest is not good always. Some emotions or feelings need to be shown. There are many DQs who spoil atmosphere of home, specially when sibling gets married.
Take care